Discover The Peace – This year is the year I will learn to forgive, let go of my fears as well as everyone and everything that prevents me from enjoying my now.
I know it takes some courage and willingness to accomplish. As anything good in life does. But hang in there, it is very rewarding in the end. Life changing if you will.
Let’s get started, shall we?
Step 1: As cliché as it sounds, accept everything happened in your past as they all happened for a reason. Each person involved had a specific role to play, some stayed in the game, some got out. They all were there, good or bad, to help us get to where we are now. Without those, we wouldn’t be us.
Step 2: Love who you are. Try to see yourself from the perspective of your mom or someone who loves you unconditionally. They see the real you, unjudged, worthy of love.
Step 3: Clean out the garbage that stands between you and your heart. Reach in and grab the real you inside out.
Step 4: Try to go to bed free of anger. Your brain works differently at night. Don’t clutter your subconscious mind with the negativity. It will only build up more the next day.
Step 5: Feed the good wolves within. Let the bad ones starve. My husband says this all the time. Apparently this was told by wise Native Indians. Whichever side you feed becomes the real you over time.
Step 6: When the conflict happens, as hard as it is to do, try to understand your reactions instead of focusing on others behaviors. Once you understand yourself, you control your reactions; you control your reactions, outcome changes. Therefore you control others by understanding yourself.
Step 7: Don’t be afraid to take responsibility for your actions. After all, this is what we teach to our children, not practicing would make us hypocrites.
Step 8: Stop trying to tell other people what to do and how to do it. You already have enough on your plate, get busy focusing on your inner self, let others make their own choices. Don’t make their life choices your responsibility. You don’t need this, trust me.
Step 9: This is probably the hardest and the most important step: LEARN TO LET GO. So much easier said than done, I know. But if you are not flexible enough to shape as you go, being broken is inevitable. As opposed to being like water and seeing everything through everyone’s eyes. This is the ultimate place where all our paradigms change and everything bad all of a sudden seems so much better. Letting go and trying to see things from others eyes are the best things you can ever do for yourself.
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